Thursday, 30 June 2016

Ways To Defeat Self-Defeat

Self Defeat is a big reason why people give up on achieving their dreams. This is cause by depression which dimmed light of hope for achieving a dream.

Some years back, I used to feel depressed, therefore defeating myself through some false core beliefs that guided my decision. Until I came to the knowledge that I am the only person that has the responsibility to achieve my goals and meet other needs. I realized that rescue wouldn't come from that uncertain hero in my fantasy, it is up to me to live by my values.  I have the power to believe in my worth or not, to allow for imperfection or not, and to decide who I want to be.

Start Where You Are

Plant a Seed of Courage

Even the tallest Sequoia tree was once a seed.  You need a seed of courage.  You will find it in strategy one.

1) Ask yourself what you want.  Is it fear?  Do you want to accomplish what you dream of doing?  What kind of person do you want looking back at you in the mirror?  Take the time to write down your answers.

The result: Clarity of focus will surprise you and others.

Water That Seed with Action

Dry seeds blow in the wind but do not produce anything.  Your seed needs the water that strategies two and three provide.

2) Define what needs changing, and come up with some creative ideas to follow through.  No idea is too weird as this is just brainstorming.  For example, if you want to be more assertive, practicing in front of the mirror is a step forward.  If you want to stop procrastinating on a tough decision, ask a friend to give you a deadline.

The result: You will begin to feel and think differently.

3) Ask, “What step(s) will I take today toward becoming who I want?”  Make at least one quality decision.  So what if the step is tiny, who cares?  You are the one stretching your courage, do what is fitting for you today.  Amaze yourself over time, as one step leads to another, then another.

The result: You will know you are a winner

Enjoy the Harvest

An apple seed becomes a tree that yields nourishment, beauty, and more seeds.  Your seed abounds with ripe courage.  Strategies four and five will prevent it from rotting on the tree.

4) Celebrate the victories, which are each step!  Pay attention as your confidence muscles bulk-up.  As change develops, you will inspire yourself.

The result: You will reap success after success

5) If you fall back, do not worry.  Everyone falls back in bigger and smaller ways.  Start again, even if it is from scratch, and congratulate yourself for being so bold!  Most people remain stagnant.  You are a champion just for trying again.

The result: Self-defeat is defeated.

You are brave with each step you take- even for reading this and thinking seriously about change!  Every movement counts.

At the time of my attempted suicide, no one could convince me my life held purpose.  A blanket of old wounds, preconceived ideas, and unmanaged major depression obscured truth.  From despair to a slow crawl, from standing to walking- my task has been to listen to wise counsel, retrain my mind, and take one step each day.  My primary motivation from the start has been to honor God in how I think and with my choices.  I now pursue a mission of bringing hope to others who cannot see beyond their pain.

It is your turn to name what you want and to decide what kind of person you want to be.  Engage in brainstorming ideas to reach these goals.  Start moving.  You will astound yourself, and your courage will blossom, one step at a time.

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Wednesday, 29 June 2016


Posting has been on and off in the past weeks, been very busy with job. But hate the fact that I have forgotten my work lately, and which is to inspire myself and others. I wanted to share with us on DREAMS, but it was late and I was tired. So while reading my e-mail this morning, then I fell into some quotes on dreams by Kanye West, found them motivating, but one struck me from the many quotes and decided I share it with my readers.
- "Most people are slowed down by the perception of themselves. If your taught is you can't do anything, you won't do anything. I was taught that I can do everything". I found one word interesting "Perception" that is the ability to hear, see or become aware of something through the senses. It is also a way of regarding, understanding, or interpreting something; a mental impression. Naturally it is easy for us to identify with things which we see or hear. Things we allow ourselves to hear and see subconsciously affect us, and indirectly affects the pursue of our DREAMS. So let us be careful when we choose the things we want to see, like places we want to go and things we want to hear.

Saturday, 11 June 2016


A talent is a gift. It is a skill that you are born with. It is very different from a gained skill, but skill that someone naturally has to do something. Talent makes it easy for you to do something that is hard in a simple and special way. Talent well nurtured through deliberate efforts sets a person above those that have acquired/learned/gained skill.

I believe most people or probably everyone has one or two talents, but we choose to find the nurtured talents of others more appealing to us than ours. So in our efforts to be like them, we choose to acquire their own talents and ignore the ones we are gifted with. Most people suffer in this course and they never attain any level of success. Why not nurture our on natural talent(s) and live a successful life?

MR. A’s talent might be different from MR. B’s talent, but that doesn’t mean MR. A’s talent is better than MR. B’s talent. We have to come to the realization that we all can’t be a musician or a footballer. When we all become footballer, then who is going to be maker of the balls and boots.

So I believe we are given different talents so as to help each other achieve our dreams or purposes. I believe we will make a lot of difference when we do that which we are created to. Let’s find our talent (that skill(s) we are born with), nurture it, and then we will live a successful life and attain heights that we never thought we could.

  • Find Your Talent
  • Nurture Your Talent
  • Excel Through Your Talent
  • Make extraordinary accomplishment and attain great height of success.


Consistency is the key aspect in achieving a set goal or a dream.
A sport team that wants to win a trophy, actually plays with the mindset and tactics of a defending and winning champion from the beginning of the competition till the very stage that the team has being announced as the winner of the competition. The sport team doesn’t always win every match they play, when they lose a match, they get sad, but they encourage themselves and stick back to their belief, plans may change, but they still always hold on to their belief.

We as humans we can only achieve our set goals in life when we remain focused only to our focus (set goals). People may not always accept everything that you do, be it works that you have given your best shot. Consistency doesn’t mean that your works are perfect, but it simply means you aren’t going to give up. So let’s not forget that we can only achieve success through what we do consistently, not what we do once in a while.

  • Be stable
  •  Surround yourself with goal oriented persons, persons with vision and great courage
  •  Believe in yourself; see yourself as being successful until it becomes your reality.